I realized early on the consequences of holding on to resentment, blame and hate after my divorce. For approximately 3 years, I blamed my ex-husband for the ending of my marriage since he is the one who initiated the divorce process. Every day I would think about how he wronged me. I would be very angry and at times very sad.
Now, don’t misunderstand me. I had a wonderful support network. My family and friends were very supportive. They made sure I went out and had fun. They would listen to me. I am so appreciative of all of them. I feel blessed they are still in my life!
I also had a great job working with kids and my co-workers were fabulous. My work gave me purpose and a daily distraction.
However, it usually happened when I was driving alone in the car. I would think negative obsessive thoughts about my ex-husband.
And do you know what? For the life of me, I could not find a date for that entire 3 years. It was almost as if I repelled the men around me.
And looking back at that time, I figuratively and literally did even though at the time my biggest goal was to reconnect, have fun and go on a date. But my negativity and refusal to forgive did not allow for me to get close to others.
Only when I started the forgiveness process toward my ex, did the date requests start. What an amazing correlation.
Our state of mind is very powerful, and we, as individuals, are very powerful. We attract what we feel and think.
If you are on a challenging life journey and are ready to make a personal commitment to yourself to live your best life, go to my website www.forgivenesstofreedom.com for wonderful healing tools. If you would like a no-obligation, free 30 minute Forgiveness to Freedom Strategy Session, call me at 810-407-2075 from the USA or 519-800-8603 from Canada.
Live Joyfully,
Maritza
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